I have a dear friend whose father was part of the Greatest Generation. He had served honorably in World War II, something about which he felt, understandably, an immeasurable amount of pride.
This great hero has just turned 92-years old. And though he’s been deaf for years, like many older people, he denied he had a hearing problem and refused to get hearing aids. This makes sense, since none of us like to be confronted by the evidence that we are growing old.
But eventually, he also developed cataracts, and again, refused to have the simple procedure to improve his sight. Regardless of what his son told him, he refused help.
Finally, the son convinced him to take advantage of his veterans’ benefits and go to the VA clinic.
While the doctor was examining him, he said, “It’s always an honor to see a disabled veteran from World War II, not too many of you guys around anymore.”
My friend’s father looked up at him, stunned. “Disabled veteran? I never thought of myself that way.”
The doctor assured him he was.
“I always advise disabled veterans to get the help they need. And in this case, it means some hearing aids. And a little cataract surgery.”
The man agreed immediately.
Why? Because he was finally able to reframe his disabilities. He allowed his challenges to be evidence of his noble service, rather than evidence of old age.
Are you telling yourself a story that is keeping you from getting the help you need? Is there a way to reframe it so that you are a hero, rather than a victim?
Let me know what you discover.
Until next Tuesday,