In the South, there is a saying that nothing looks more like a bottle of whiskey than a bottle of whiskey in a paper sack. There are some things we just can’t hide!
If you are a regular reader, you know that last week I was at the Social Venture Institute on Cortes Island, British Columbia. All this week I’ve enjoyed reliving those memories as many people posted pictures on Facebook. There was a particular picture that caught my attention. I was at the front of the room leading a workshop – with appropriately casual West Coast clothes: jeans, a long shirt and a long scarf. Why the attire? Well jeans are casual and comfy and the long shirt and scarf (I thought) would give the illusion of a slimmer version of the real me.
When I saw the pictures I was confronted with the reality. What I was trying to hide was still on full display. This got me thinking about all the things we ALL try to hide:
. . . just to name a few
Whether it’s hiding baldness with a toupee or comb over, everyone knows you are losing or have lost your hair.
Self-importance is a sure sign of self doubt. A part of us believes that if we just “act big”, we will be big. The next time you find yourself throwing your weight around, acting like the most important person in the room, pause for a minute and ask yourself what you are trying to hide. It may be that kernel of self-doubt that most everyone I know has to some degree.
And what about the anger or indignation that can flare up? You may want to ask yourself what you are afraid of. Is it fear of being hurt, or being disregarded? So many extraordinary people feel like they are impostors – indeed there is a name for it, The Impostor Syndrome. We feel like we have fooled the world into thinking we are better than we believe ourselves to be. Is your anger covering that?
We ALL have flaws – welcome to the human race. And many of us believe we are the only ones who do, so we spend energy trying to hide them. What we struggle to realize is, one, we all have them. Two, what we do in an attempt to hide them, is only fooling ourselves.
So why did I think it was important to “hide” a part of me? Perhaps it was old messages about how I should look. Or my fear of being perceived as “old”, not hip. I could go on, but you get the picture. So this is a week, I’m going to think about what I’m trying to hide and make sure I’m not hiding it from myself.
I invite you to consider what you may be trying to hide. Let me know how it goes for you and reach out for encouragement.
Until next Tuesday,